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I’m here to complain about all of the complaining for a second…

This is how I feel about the changes:

Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest. In exchange, I’ll offer a few new Facebook tips I’ve figured out in the last few days:


It’s possible I’m the only one who utilized the old lists format on Facebook. If I’m not and you’re worried what happened to those hours you slaved away categorizing your friends (first world problem of mine, I know), Facebook kept your lists here
They hide your old ones until you click on them from this page, then they will be readily available on your left sidebar.


The only “complaint” I can file to Facebook for the new change is bittersweet for me… it makes it a lot harder for organizations, companies, and other non-people to show up on my newsfeed. 
It takes me back to the days of yore (2005, when I first joined) when I only saw my friends, acquaintances, and people-I-barely-know-and-friended-after-one-meeting on my newsfeed. However, I work with social media as my profession… I want you people to be gobbling up what I’m feeding you on Facebook!
I can only imagine what kinds of complaints we’ll hear from the big fish in the form of lawsuits (I sure hope they see the irony in suing a company that provides access to millions of consumers for free), but for now it is making my day job more difficult.
In case you don’t see our Bright Maidens or posts very often after the new format, don’t forget about us!


“Am I doing this right?”

Speaking of…
It’s an “intro piece” because I don’t think I did an effective job of covering my original intent. So you get to enjoy more of my musings later on.
Ladies and gentlemen, please direct your attention to two marvelous women and their marvelous announcements. Ahem, Emily and Kendra. Thank you for your attention.


Happy, happy birthday sister o’mine!! I love you!


The Bright Maidens (and manly man, Tony) concentrated on the distinction between “sexy” and “desirable.” As always, we had some great responses and a breadth of perspectives!

Trista, “Sensible, Courageous, and Very Beautiful” – Trista is not Megan Fox because she is worth seeking and far more than the shell of sexiness that Megan Fox represents.

Julie, “I have confidence in confidence alone!” – Sexiness and desirability overlap, but to make “being sexy” one’s purpose, and with a disregard for love or the other human beings who are present, is a distortion of a person’s inherent goodness..

Elizabeth, “Revealing” – Make sure you don’t overcorrect and start punishing yourself for being an attractive woman of feminine genius.

Liesl, “Bringing Sexy Back” The sexual revolution stole the definition of the word sexy and is holding it ransom. We need to get it back for the chaste health of our people!

Tony, “Should we be ‘desirable’ … or “sexy?‘” – Tony, in his unabashed bravery, tackles the concept that the traits which make a woman a desirable wife, or a man a desirable husband, don’t always make him/her a desirable sexual partner (and vice-versa).

Clare, “Cherished” –  Clare took on the perspective of how women perceive men’s desirability and sexiness. Very pertinent!